SOOOO – I have really been wanting to share our engagement details. BUT I thought Taylor might kill me. He is a very private person, and clearly I am not because I love to share things with you all! I am the hopeless romantic, mushy gushy one between the two of us and I am definitely the louder one in the relationship. Tay does not have any social media and does not want any, and I totally admire him for that. He is a good sport about my blog and platform, although he may get annoyed when he takes way too many photos for me, he only complains when I take drastic amounts of time.
Most of our friends know that we visited Ireland for ten days in October. We planned the trip a year in advance, to celebrate my college graduation. We chose Ireland mainly because I have always wanted to go and I talked Taylor into wanting to go for the past three years by sending him hundreds of photos of the country. He has always wanted to see the Cliffs of Moher, and I am obsessed with castles, history, the Irish culture, and everything else about Ireland if I’m being honest. My family has visited the country numerous times over the years, so they were also a help. Our ancestors are from Ireland, so getting to learn the culture of the country has been something that I always wanted to do. We planned and paid for our trip in advance so when we got to Ireland we could enjoy our time together seeing the entire beautiful country.
Taylor and I have talked openly about marriage over time. We have always been super honest in our relationship about what we want, the future, and our goals together. I do think that this is so important when planning for the future. I told him a long time ago that I would rather wait until after college graduation or toward the end of senior year to get engaged IF he was wanting to. Tay is 26, so he has been career established for a few years now. He has been so supportive of me with school, my career, and starting a new job in December as well. We really wanted to focus on establishing ourselves before we focused on marriage. Being financially stable was one of the main priorities that we wanted to lock down before marriage or anything else. For some people, it is not, and that is totally okay! Everyone is different and has a different view on a marriage time frame. We agreed that we were going to do whatever we could in advance to make the marriage transition financially easier for us. Taylor is very smart with money, and I have a business degree, so that may have something to do with it!
When we traveled to Ireland, I was graduated from college for a few months and working my first “big girl” job for almost a year. I secretly was wishing he had something up his sleeve about a proposal, and he probably knew that. It was day 8 on our trip and by this point I had lost ALL hope. We visited every castle, the cliffs, countryside, everything that we had wanted to see, we saw. The second to last night of our trip we had planned to spend the night in a castle in Clifden, Ireland. The Abbeyglen Castle was so beautiful, out in the middle of nowhere, and very romantic. By day 8 on our trip, we were winding down and super exhausted. The castle hosted a royal dinner and toast hour so we were definitely staying in for the night. I did pack a formal gown (ya know just incase Taylor wanted to get dressed up hint hint) and mentioned to him that we should get dressed up for dinner. He told me “no one else is super dressed up so let’s just wear our jeans and sweaters.” I casually tried to not act sad by saying “okay..” but pretty much died on the inside because it was definitely not happening then! The sun was starting to set over the mountains so we decided to go outside and sit on the terrace, it overlooked the town of Clifden and the grounds at the Abbeyglen Castle, which had amazing landscaping and even helicopter pads. We stood on the terrace just chatting for a bit and laughing about memories we had made throughout the week. Taylor was a little bit behind me and coughed, I didn’t think anything of it, then he coughed again and I turned around to say “are you okay” and of course he was down on one knee. I completely froze and he said “will you marry me?” After that I totally blacked out, I had to ask him if I even said yes! He said that I did and I hugged him super tight. When I saw my ring I just stood there in shock. It really is true that you black out when people say that happens after being proposed to! I did not even know what I was doing after it was all over, Taylor stood and watched me run around like a squirrel from excitement for a few minutes and just laughed. We FaceTimed my parents and sister, he told his family, and then we put our phones away and enjoyed every little moment for the next few days. The castle staff gave us bottles of champagne to celebrate, and we told each other all the mushy gushy things over a toast. Tay said that he had an entire speech prepared before he proposed, but completely forgot everything and just wanted to ask me when he was down on one knee. He was sure to spill his entire speech to me afterwards though and I cried my eyes out. He cried too, which made me cry harder. We giggled the rest of the night and it was more perfect than I could have ever dreamed. The owner of the castle gathered all the guests in the lobby for a tell-all about the Abbeyglen history, and at the end of his story he announced our engagement and we were NOT expecting that so we both turned bright red, it was so kind of him to do that. The castle hosts the Clifden town lottery so tickets were available for purchase. Multiple people bought us lottery tickets to wish us well, and it was so nice. We didn’t win the Clifden lottery sadly, BUT we will seriously never forget people bringing us lottery tickets all night. We actually missed the royal dinner due to all the excitement, before we realized, it was after 10 pm. We ended up going downtown and getting Chinese, it was worth it!
I told Taylor that I wanted to enjoy the last few days of our trip before announcing our engagement. We told our families over the phone, and I texted some of my closest friends. I waited until we were home to post it on social media, and I am so glad that I did. Posting big life events online is fun and exciting, don’t get me wrong. But enjoying every moment with your person is WAY more exciting than anything else.
October 6, 2019 will be so special to us forever! We are getting married December 12, 2020 and I am starting to dive deep into wedding planning. My New Years resolution this year is to not stress about the little things, enjoy as much as possible because everything will work out perfectly in the end. This year is going to fly by, but I am truly enjoying this season already. Our engagement was a fairytale, and I know our wedding will be too! I am thankful for a giant support system of women who love all things wedding, no joke!